Today I read in NJ schools, if a child of any grade comes to school saying they identify as the opposite gender the school must allow them to be called whatever name they choose, must be referred to with the proper pronoun along with use of their choice of bathrooms or locker rooms. What is missing is the school informing the parents!!!

Parents need to know what is going on with their kids!!! Whether it is pregnancy, drug\alcohol abuse, bullying or any other issue,  parents need to know.

BUT…The schools need to not just inform the parents but offer outside counseling so parents can cope with their own feelings about the situation as well as how to communicate with their kids on tough topics.  Fear of retaliation by a parent is not a good enough excuse to exclude them!

The other issue I have is, when or what age does a child know for sure what they truly want to be or is it just a phase? At age 4 to about 9 I prayed to GOD to be boy and get a puppy. Junior high school I was the tomboy’s tomboy. Refusing to wear skirts or dresses and played sports and hung out with the guys. But later in life around college something clicked and I dated had a boyfriend.  And later I embraced my femininity and today I am so glad I did. That is my story but it is a true example of how a person can change. I think kids especially younger kids need to get older before those choices can be solidified. Choices NOT stifled but eased into without such drastic changes that impacts everyone! Wearing unisex clothes is a good beginning. See where is goes after puberty. Kids can change direction like the wind. Trust me I know.